Potty training before nursery

Describe what is happening now

Tell the key person whether your child notices a wet or dirty nappy, uses words or gestures to ask for help, sits comfortably on the potty, or is practising at particular times. Children develop these skills differently. A brief factual description helps more than simply saying “trained” or “not trained”.

Agree the small practical details

• Use familiar words for the potty, toilet and asking for help.
• Ask where the toilet is and how your child will be supported to find it.
• Pack easy-to-change clothes, spare underwear or nappies and anything the nursery asks for.
• Discuss how staff will let you know about attempts, accidents or discomfort.
• Agree how to support handwashing as part of the routine.

For a child who uses pictures, signs or another communication aid, show the team what they already use. Discuss access and individual support with the setting and professionals involved.

Keep accidents matter-of-fact

Respond calmly and help your child get comfortable again. An accident is information about where they are in learning, not a reason for blame. If starting nursery is a big change, review the pace of potty practice with the key person rather than adding pressure.

A shared note could say: “Please offer the same short reminder we use at home, help with clothing and tell us what you notice.” Adapt it together to the child.

When you need more support

If toileting is painful, your child is withholding poo, or you are concerned about constipation, contact your health visitor or GP. An educational consultation can support routines and communication but cannot assess or treat a medical problem.

For the wider transition, use the home and nursery settling plan.